What to Look for in a Divorce Mediator
The decision to work with a divorce mediator instead of divorce litigation is wise. Mediation will save you time, money, and the stress of going to court. The next decision is choosing a divorce mediator. Here are the top ten qualities to look for in a divorce mediator. But first, be aware that there is a trend in divorcing couples choosing to mediate versus litigate. This trend has led to a flooded market of untrained divorce litigators practicing divorce mediation. Yet, many divorce lawyers are now mediating due to the stress and toxicity of divorce litigation.
Top Ten Qualities You Want in a Divorce Mediator
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Go With Your Gut When Choosing a Divorce Mediator
Choosing a divorce mediator is like choosing a doctor or a therapist. You will be sharing the most personal and intimate information about yourself and your life. When I say go with your gut it means that when you interview a mediator, you will immediately get a feel for the person both professionally and personally. If something rubs you the wrong way, there is a reason. Move on. Given how many divorce mediators are practicing in your area, there is no need to settle for someone that does not feel like the right fit. Remember, choose wisely.
Spouses Should Select and Mutually Agree on their Divorce Mediator
It is not uncommon for a couple to interview several divorce mediators before selecting a mediator that feels right for their unique circumstances. Of course choosing a mediator needs to be by mutual agreement of both spouses. If both do not agree, and one acquiesces to appease the other spouse, the mediation process will not be as successful as one where there is mutual accord from the start on the selection of their divorce mediator.
Written by: Attorney Mediator Susan Wakefield
If you have any questions about divorce mediation, choosing a divorce mediator, or would like to speak to a divorce mediator or family law attorney, do not hesitate to contact our experienced attorney mediator and other skilled family law attorneys at Maya Murphy, P.C. at (203)221-3100 or email SWakefield@mayaylaw.com. We offer free consultations for all new clients. Our office in Westport, Connecticut services the entire state of Connecticut.